THE IMPORTANCE OF MASTERING THE ACT OF SILENCE

Do you know that human beings are endowed from the beginning of time with one major quality which if properly used can be a solution to many of our daily problems in life? Which is silence: The ability to remain silent in some seeming uncontrollable situations.

As simple or common this might sound, those who failed to recognize its magical power are currently in their early graves, hospitals, prisons or having broken homes.

In this post I will quickly describe some situations where there is a need for one to remain silent which can prevent one from making so costly a mistake.

1. An unfortunate encounter with someone who is having a bad time:
  I believe this scenario is often common at work or at social gatherings when someone with whom you often play can easily pick an offence from any little thing you say. And to prevent the situation from degenerating to a regrettable end, it is better for one to resort to being silent and calmly walk way.
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2. Discussions turning to arguments:
Often time, during discussions with loved ones, light discussions can turn to heated arguments. One must not be carried away when this effectually happens. Because argument always creates unnecessary hatred. It is always seen as a competition of egos by the parts involved. people are left emotionally hurt at the end. So when a discussion is turning to a heated argument one person should be silent and calmly claim to agree with the other person for peace to reign.

3. When an audience is not credited during a discussion:
Have you ever found yourself in a casual group of discussion where different views are raised by everyone on a particular topic of discourse and an audience or the necessary acknowledgement is not created for you to add your own views. In this situation you might feel disgruntled and dejected. This always happens when everyone wants his voice to be heard which always results to a lack of decorum and unnecessary quarrels within the group. So in this situation, one needs to know how to be silent and calmly walk away.
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Conclusively, there are a lot of situations in which this quality - the ability to know when to be silent in our daily encounter with people in life, needs to be applied. And the ability to know when to apply it makes one the master of the act. Being a master of this act will prevent one from always having emotional troubles and a lot of preventable mishaps from befalling on us.

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DO NOT WORRY! EVERYTHING WILL SOON BE ALRIGHT.

There is always a time in one's life when every path will seem blocked or uncertain. Because you have exhausted all the possibilities, yet the expected result is not forthcoming. And you feel embroiled in sadness. So the question you ask yourself at this point in time is "what is the next thing to do". Well, Do not worry! Everything will soon be alright.

Whatever you are looking for in life which seems unachievable or whatever your challenge might be which seems insurmountable, do not worry! Everything will soon be alright.

 You might be sad because you are lagging behind in achievements, Since you have tried every means and all your calories seem depleted. So you do not know what to do next. Though its normal for you to feel sad because that is how human beings are all wired to feel in such situations. It is said that tough time never last but tough people do. So do not worry! Everything will soon be alright.

But the truth is every event is destined to happen at a particular time in life. And every challenge you encounter in life is to train you for the greater good. If your efforts all seem fruitless, do no worry! Everything will soon be alright.

Wait for your time. When it is your time, everything will appear magical, because its manifestation will be incomprehensible. All what you have been struggling to achieve will come to you with ease, without any effort at all. So do no worry! Everything will soon be alright.

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3 WAYS TO LOSE PEOPLE

1. You lose people by being common: That is not being unique.
2. You lose people by being insincere.

3. And you lose people by being bad at what you do.
With all these together and it’s very easy to lose people, including your loved ones.

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WHY WE NEED TO HAVE A SECOND THOUGHT ABOUT RELIGIONS IN AFRICA.

It is very imperative that we bring our attentions to the major cause of problems that have bedeviled Nigeria as a country or even Africa in general. Obviously we can all see the implications of religions in our society today, but oftentimes we are not brave enough to call a spade a spade. And if we agree that there is a problem but we are shying away from identifying the cause of the problem, that means we are not ready to find a last solution to the problem. To this reason I decide to discuss the problems religions have brought to Nigeria, especially the whole Africa.

Let me quickly define religion as the belief and worship of a superhuman who posses a power or powers to control man's destiny. So the religious adherents act and live their lives in accordance to the rules and laws written in the religious books such as Koran and Bible.

There are thousands of religions in the world, but the most practiced ones especially in Nigeria are Christianity, Islam and the traditional religions. So after the arrival of the abrahamic religions in Nigeria, the following problems can not separated from their impacts in the country.

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1. The major purpose of a religion is to create unity and peace, but in reality the reverse is the case. It has caused a lot of divisions in the society: Because every sect always claims that its religion is the accepted one before God, thereby causing problems among them ; The children of one sect are not allowed to marry the children of the other; An as a Muslim getting a job at a Christian owned company is hard and vise versa. So we need to have a second thought religion in Africa.

2. Religion instills fear in its adherents. Because their sermons are often used to threaten or sound a note of warnings to the adherents: That to avoid a curse or damnation, the ways of their lives must be in conformity with some certain principles or guidelines; That they will go to hell if they violate any of the laws; That they will be poor if they don't pay their offerings. So this timidity always limits their freewill to take a certain action their own without any consultation to a religious leader who will happily use that avenue to his own advantage. So we need to have a second thought religion in Africa.

3. Added to the above, a lot of religious racketeers, so-called men of God, use this religion as a means to dupe people, especially the poor ones, of their hard earned money by promising them rewards, some will say they will marry "seven virgins", in heaven while they are enjoying their lives right here on earth. Amazingly there is always a chapter of the books they will quote to support their dubious actions. So we need to have a second thought religion in Africa.

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4. In Addition, many political leaders or government use religion as tool to champion their cause by inciting the populace against one other with the use of this slogan " we versus them". So they use religion to cause troubles in the society that always lead to loss of lives and properties.

The practical examples of this in Nigeria are the Boko Haram insurgency issue that Nigeria is currently battling with and the recent crisis in Kaduna state that led to loss of many lives.

5. Religion creates discrimination against women. Even though almost 90 per cent of many religious gatherings are women and they contribute the most to the offertories in those religious gatherings, yet there are certain positions they are not allowed to occupy.  So we need to have a second thought religion in Africa.

6. Religion causes laziness, many of these religious leaders remain solely on the tithes and offerings from their members. They never deem it fit to have their own personal businesses. And they will cunningly schedule their services on the days of week and thereby preventing the members from spending the required time to make maximum sales and profits from their businesses. It's logical, the more time you spend on your business, the higher the sales and the gains will be.  So we need to have a second thought religion in Africa.

7. Religion causes carelessness among its members. That reminds me of a story my mother told me someimes ago. My mother was away when I was a child for several days. I was only home with my Dad. So during this period I got sick instead for him to take me to hospital, he didn't. Because his church doctrine forbade him to use medication but only water. So he kept praying over me and bathing me with water until my mother came around. She could not take it when she saw my condition and quickly rushed me to hospital. It's discovered I needed blood and which was given to me. Had she not come home on time I would not be here to write this post today.
So a lot of children have lost their lives through this means.  So we need to have a second thought religion in Africa.

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8. Religion breaks homes and causes murders. Many adherents have received prophecies from their religious leaders that their wives or fathers are behind their problems which have resulted to the adherents maiming or killing their loved ones.  So we need to have a second thought religion in Africa.

9. Finally, religion doesn't encourage critical thinking which has caused Nigeria, or Africa in general, to lag behinds in technology. Because when we will face a challenge instead of looking for away to prevent the challenge from reoccurring and thinking of a way to make our lives better we, attribute it to destiny and the will of God.  So we need to have a second thought religion in Africa.

So if we can stand to face the reality that religion has caused more harm than good in your society I believe that will be a step toward finding a lasting solution to the current crisis and the under development problems we find ourselves in Nigeria or in Africa as a whole.

Note: I do not write this to condemn any religion, because I also do believe in the existence of God. But I only write this as a wake up call to reality. Which will serve as a bold step in making our country a better place.

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THE STEPS TO POVERTY THAT MANY PEOPLE UNKNOWINGLY TAKE.

Many people continue to remain poor because they trend on the path of poverty. I believe it is everyone's dream to find a lasting solution to poverty.

But many fail to identify some certain steps, that when taking it is a direct path to poverty. So for those who want to get rid of poverty in life, these steps are to be recognized and worked upon.

Having only one major way of income:
To remain poor for life is to rely on one major way of making money. Many people depend only on their monthly salaries without taking any steps to get any additional means of generating incomes. No matter how well paid you are at end of the month, depending solely on the salary means  you are trending on a  path of poverty.

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 Exhausting your earnings:
Once you have chosen "spend it all" as your slogan, you should know that you have signed a contract with poverty. Some people find it hard to save from their earnings. They never consider savings important. So if you always finish your salary without saving part of it for investments and as something to fall back to in a financial crisis, you are trending on a path of poverty.

Believing that getting rich is magical:
When you believe that getting rich requires some magic. That getting rich always requires illegit means. This belief won't enable you to focus on the legit means to make money. So when you have this mindset about getting rich, you are trending on the path of poverty.

Not investing in yourself:
To succeed in a particular field or an enterprise requires learning the technical know-how of that field or the enterprise as the case maybe. And many people always fail to invest on themselves to learn the skills required towards becoming experts in their various fields of choice. So when you fail to invest on yourself, to succeed in that field will be very hard and you will never keep pace with your contemporaries. And this will result to a trend on the path of poverty.
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Piling up debts:
When you get a loan always use it for investments. And the loans must be serviced as and when due. In a case where you have accumulated debts you should clear them all. Because doing so will speak well of your integrity.

Failure to create budgets:
Once you fail to create budgets and work towards achieving them. that is a trend on a path of poverty.

Failure to take risks:
If you can't recognize an opportunity when you see one. And when you often scared to take a calculated risk, you are trending on a path of poverty.

Be Indecisive:
Lastly,  when you are indecisive about taking a cogent decision on achieving your plans or when taking calculated risks , it will pose a problem for you on your path to a financial victory.

So if the steps to financial problems discussed above can be acknowledged and worked on, I believe poverty will surely go into extinction in everyone's life.

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STOP WORRYING ABOUT BEAUTY. HERE IS THE SECRET.

 I have seen a lot of ladies who always feel inferior in the midst of their friends, because they see themselves ugly while their friends beautiful. Thereby it makes them to think that they are no match with their peers which brings about this inferiority complex in them. So, today I decide  to write about this to address this issue.

                              Do you know Confidence bring beauty?
On a pathway to beauty is confidence. And to be confident you should consider the following steps -
Being comfortable with yourself:
To be comfortable with yourself you need to give a full consideration to what you put on. This does not necessary mean putting on something expensive. It means wearing something you are comfortable in.  And being comfortable in your wears means you are happy wearing them. Because when you are happy with yourself it builds confidence in you. Which is what you need.

Giving a great consideration to neatness :
I would have omitted this point because it sounds laughable asking anyone to be neat. But truth be told , it is not everyone that considers neatness as that important. One will be amazed when one sees sometimes how dirty the undies a lady is putting on are. When ladies should always be in the forefront for the advocacy of this quality. So no matter how simple your wears are, ensure they are neat.

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self-appreciation:
You need to appreciate youself by seeing yourself  beautiful, happy, intelligent and enviable. So you should see yourself the way you want people to see you. You should know that before anyone will like you, you neet to like yourself. If you don't like yourself nobody will like you. Stop seeing yourself ugly. People see you the way you see yourself.

Never pay attention to the bad comments some people might make against you:
Some people will never be happy seeing you happy. So they tend to say bad things about you in a bid to bring you down, to create fear in you, to see yourself inferior to them. The logic is that when you feel down you create the room for them to feel superior. Which is their main objective. So never give ear to any negative comments about you.

Though there are a lot books written about how to be confident, but the most important thing is that when you like and appreciate yourself it will strike out inferiority complex in you.
               Nobody is ugly!
Beauty is from the mind. No one is ugly. It is your thinking that sends a clear signal out on how you want to be seen and treated by people.

So the bottom line is that to be beautiful out there, you need to have confidence in yourself . Having confidence in yourself makes you think beautifully about yourself. In return beauty will be generated in you, you will feel beauty and reflect beauty to the outside world.

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